It's interesting how people quickly can judge your situation. Living with type one diabetes isn't a cookie cutter diagnosis. People living with any form of diabetes are battling things that another type one has never encountered. I find it amazing how strong the type one diabetes community is along with the supportive helpers that those living with type one diabetes have, including but not limited to parents of type one diabetic children.
But as much as us living with diabetes become defensive when others (non-diabetics) blame us for our disease, make jokes that are OK for us to tell but NOT OK for them to tell. As much as we write blogs about the horrible neighbour who told you about a cinnamon cure or a new book she saw about eliminating diabetes. We often hurt one another in our words or 'advice' that we give.
I see it all the time on the diabetes pages on Facebook. People trying to help each other out by giving advice on how to deal with a grumpy type one teen or whether or not to celebrate a dia-versary. I think people mean well, actually I bet 99% of the people mean well, but we honestly can be damaging our own personal health by asking the community at times I feel.
It is incredibly easy to feel frustrated when dealing with diabetes and it is nice to have a community of people in similiar situations but I feel like the most important thing to remember is that sometimes people just need someone to listen and not to judge them. Heck, sometimes it is better to instead of giving advice just give a simple, "I think you're doing a great job and what worked for me was_____but it may not work for you."
In the past close to five years I have received advice as well as given advice. I admit that some of the 'advice' I received I deemed as trolling or that the person just didn't have the common sense to not press enter/send. However, I think there are solutions to this to make sure that the parent who is frustrated with their type one child, doesn't become frustrated with the entire community because when a person draws away from something that they once felt was supportive they may never trust to return again.
So, next time you are on a diabetes community blog, Facebook page, forum etc. please think about what 'advice' you're giving and remember that diabetes may be similiar logistically but in reality it is a different story for every single person.